Great post. Not sure I would chase rejection, but I would definitely agree all journeys are filled with obstacles and challenges—but then again that is what makes the journey worthwhile. And, of course, each presents myriad opportunities to adapt, overcome and to take new paths. If we can remember all journeys are in essence a process not an event I think it helps us consistently embrace the journey.
I so needed to read this! The rejection resiliency muscle is one I need to develop, particularly when it comes to my creative work. I had a group meeting with a manager on Zoom. He reviewed our project ideas and gave everyone tips on how to pursue them. Everyone except me. He belittled everything I had done and dismissed the actors who had worked with me. I was so crushed that I didn't write ANYTHING for months. I love the idea of turning this around into evidence of making progress, of being in motion, of trying. I'm about to go out with another script in a couple of weeks (finally), and I'm going to set rejection goals (and take many deep breaths along the way).
I love this comment so much because, and I’ve read it a few times, you coach yourself through the entire thing and come up with an action plan by the end.
I will add it is so much more challenging to get comfortable with rejection when it’s something we’ve created.
There’s a vulnerability there of saying:
I made this. Do you like it?
which definitely eclipses pitching ourselves for a podcast type stuff.
I will say setting rejection goals coupled with realizing 95% of life has nothing to do with me has really changed my life.
This hit home. I recently went back to work. My rejection in a way is computer ignorance. I am a nurse but have not worked in a organization. Since I took my granddaughter 20 years ago. I had to care for her due to all of her needs. I now work as a nurse in a assisted living home. It was hard not having paper charts and having to input all info in computer. Learning the programs is still a learning process. Being rejected by some staff due to my age and ignorance of computer felt overwhelming but I persevered. I can now say I have won over most staff and getting better at the computer. I have always live to learns this us my one good characteristic. The patients are my favorite and slowly the computer is becoming one too.
Great post. Not sure I would chase rejection, but I would definitely agree all journeys are filled with obstacles and challenges—but then again that is what makes the journey worthwhile. And, of course, each presents myriad opportunities to adapt, overcome and to take new paths. If we can remember all journeys are in essence a process not an event I think it helps us consistently embrace the journey.
Yes AND for me the chasing of rejection is a reframe of the adage which doesn’t resonate with me the:
Every no brings you that much closer to a yes.
I so needed to read this! The rejection resiliency muscle is one I need to develop, particularly when it comes to my creative work. I had a group meeting with a manager on Zoom. He reviewed our project ideas and gave everyone tips on how to pursue them. Everyone except me. He belittled everything I had done and dismissed the actors who had worked with me. I was so crushed that I didn't write ANYTHING for months. I love the idea of turning this around into evidence of making progress, of being in motion, of trying. I'm about to go out with another script in a couple of weeks (finally), and I'm going to set rejection goals (and take many deep breaths along the way).
I love this comment so much because, and I’ve read it a few times, you coach yourself through the entire thing and come up with an action plan by the end.
I will add it is so much more challenging to get comfortable with rejection when it’s something we’ve created.
There’s a vulnerability there of saying:
I made this. Do you like it?
which definitely eclipses pitching ourselves for a podcast type stuff.
I will say setting rejection goals coupled with realizing 95% of life has nothing to do with me has really changed my life.
This hit home. I recently went back to work. My rejection in a way is computer ignorance. I am a nurse but have not worked in a organization. Since I took my granddaughter 20 years ago. I had to care for her due to all of her needs. I now work as a nurse in a assisted living home. It was hard not having paper charts and having to input all info in computer. Learning the programs is still a learning process. Being rejected by some staff due to my age and ignorance of computer felt overwhelming but I persevered. I can now say I have won over most staff and getting better at the computer. I have always live to learns this us my one good characteristic. The patients are my favorite and slowly the computer is becoming one too.
Oh GERI what a great, helpful, insightful, and vulnerable comment.
And you’ve captured it beautifully in an entirely different setting.
The resilience, the grit, the tenacity – – we may not win over every staff or every program, but we will get most of the way there.
And I bet you are many of the patients’ favorite as well.