Delicate threads

navigating the subtle distinction between optimism and positivity

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I’d call myself an optimist.

I believe good things are happening and generally try to see the potential of any situation.

I’d also say I’m a positive person, although this can feel more of a challenge in some seasons of life than others.

Positivity, at least as we will define it here, is a more of a general, overarching and allll the time mindset. It’s an approach to life which leans heavily upon the unspoken refrain of it’s all good! we’re all good! (which, if you’re my people, brings to mind the oft used during the pandemic This is FINE! meme.)

Optimism and positivity are used interchangeably, yet encompass distinct perspectives that influence and describe how we as individuals choose to approach life.

Optimism is the belief the sun will shine after the storm; positivity is dancing in the downpour and celebrating every damn drop - quote fabricated by me to try and clarify the nuanced difference

3 distinctions between optimism and positivity:

✔️ Outlook on the Future versus Present Mindset:

Optimism primarily revolves around the belief the future will be better—a belief which provides a sense of hope and purpose.

Optimists ‘just know’ things will ultimately work out for the best, even in challenging situations, and tend to anticipate positive outcomes in the long run.

For me, optimism can best be captured by the quote Everything will be okay in the end; if it's not okay it's not the end only I hope a smidge less annoying (just me? anyone else find that overtheTOP optimistic?).

In contrast to this positivity focuses on the present moment.

It centers on finding joy in current circumstances irrespective of future expectation(s). While optimists look forward to favorable outcomes (covid lockdown ending! finding that new job!) Positivity Peeps seek to appreciate, embrace and laser focus on the good of the now.

✔️ Realism vs. Unwavering Positivity:

Optimism more often integrates a sense of realism.

Optimistic individuals acknowledge challenges and obstacles exist, yet maintain confidence in their abilities to overcome them.

Optimists possess a balanced perspective recognizing both the good and the ‘bad’ aspects of a situation. And, although they can appear to be unquestioningly happy, this is frequently a strategic choice. Optimism, grounded in a realistic acknowledgement of what current obstacles are, can drive us forward to success.

Positivity, however, can sometimes lean toward an unwavering positive mindset without necessarily acknowledging potential pitfalls. While positivity encourages a bright and hopeful attitude, it may not delve as deeply into the practicalities and complexities of a situation.

✔️ Response to Challenges and Setbacks:

Another key difference lies in how optimism and positivity respond to impediments.

Optimism embraces setbacks as temporary hurdles on the path to ultimate success. It sees difficulties as opportunities for growth and learning.

Positive People may lean towards minimizing the impact of challenges by focusing on the good in a situation. While this can be tremendously beneficial for maintaining emotional well-being, it may not address obstacles with the same nuanced, strategic approach as optimism.

I am an optimist. Being alive is incredible. It can be hard and sad and terrifying, but it’s all we’ve got. — J. Frey

In essence, while optimism and positivity share a foundation of favorable thinking, their emphasis and application differ.

Optimism? Future-oriented, blending hope with a realistic understanding of challenges.

Positivity? Centers on finding joy in the now and, at times, embracing an upbeat attitude which chooses not to delve as deeply into the complexities of life.

Yep.

Complex, confusing and I hope has sparked you to stop, drop and ponder: Wait which am I? as I have.

On some level it’s as simple as optimism was me during my divorce.

Even when I was deep in that tunnel— with no light behind or ahead—I ‘just knew’ the light would show itself if I kept going.

And positivity?

Let’s bring it back to the movies, shall we?

The Life of Brian.

The Monty Python film ends with loin-clothed characters nailed to a cross singing and whistling “Always look on the bright side of life”

We optimists trend toward things are great! even when (especially when?) loincloth clad and whistling.

Now you. No overthinking!

Are you an optimist? A positive person? And how did you come to this conclusion?